Posts tagged ‘Relationships’
Cheaterville: Don’t be the last to know
Q8Rain.com featured a hilarious post about Cheaterville.com; a website that takes the reality TV show, Cheaters to the forefronts of social media! This is a website that makes repenting, remorse, and regret a far fetched fantasy >.<’ Just think about the possibilities if:
- Your significant other is on the website
- You find yourself on the website!
- You find your parents on the website >.<’
- You find your cat on the website (queue X-Files music)
Word of warning, if you haven’t done this already, the search feature records the number of times a person has been searched >.<’ So yes, I am already listed #fml. The website should come into the region, and integrate with Khitba.com! It will be a credit check type of service #patentThis
Well, in all fairness, everyone makes mistakes, and it’s good to remember your mistakes! What a brilliant way for friends to remind you of all the oops’s and ack’s you’ve made in the past ~ can you think of people you’d list?
#sarcasm of the day:
“What word describes the practice of being married to only one person at a time. Mono-something. Ah … Monotony.” by Spugu.com
Misconceived Notions
So I was on the Twitterboxthis morning, and a friend tweeted how she thought most dudes aren’t romantic, bla bla bla. Now I’m not gonna lie, this friend is always complaining about something, but she isn’t the only one saying this apparently.
Here’s my main gripe with this sentiment. Women don’t want us to be romantic all the time. In fact, they don’t want us to be romantic at all. “You’re not being romantic” is code for “YOU’RE NOT PAYING ENOUGH ATTENTION TO ME.” (Yes they yell that in their heads, and 200 percent of the readers just posted comments attacking this statement while yelling something similar in their heads.) Observe.
This is how the day usually goes, from what I can observe:
Boy: Hello sweetheart how are you today? What’s up? What are you up to tonight?
Girl: HEYYY!! How are youuuuuuu?? Wala nothing much. Was thinking of going to the salon. I don’t know, I don’t like my hair. I was thinking of doing (this) to it. What do you think?
This is a trap question. First of, you should always agree with what she wants to do to the hair, because its decided anyway. Secondly, and this is important, COMPLIMENT THE CURRENT STATE OF HER HAIR.
Anyway, let’s continue. After 45 minutes of her talking about her hair, complaining about her friends/family, and random unintelligible topics that have no doubt been tuned out by my ADHD brain, she asks me what I’m gonna do.
Boy: Oh nothing. Gym for a while, might catch up with my friends, then to the dowaneya.
Girl: (interjecting) Oh yeah, what’s today? Saturday? Doesn’t BARCELONA play today? (She’s trying to act cute, care about stuff you care about, but its again, another trap.)
Boy: Wala mashala 3alaich mtab3aa. Yeah their game is at 10.
Girl: Awww so I’m not gonna talk to you then huh? (Again, trap.)
This is what’s going on in my head at this moment. “Well, you can. But I’d rather you not because you know I’m a nervous ninny who is gonna be yelling at the TV unless we have a 3 goal lead at halftime. (This is true. Watching games with me is a trip and a half.)”
What I say: “Don’t worry you can always find me.”
This is code for, sure, text, BBM, whatever- JUST DON’T CALL. I’m at the dowaneya, A, and B, it’s Barca. I’ve been a fan longer than I’ve known you, and I don’t make a fuss out of you not calling when you’re with friends and / or watching a TV show. I understand ME time.
Sure enough, we’re texting during the day, BBM, whatever. But still, no call. When does the call come in? If you guessed 10:10, you win a prize. This is where it gets tricky.
Do you pick up, tell her your team is playing and that you’ll call her back? You can do that. Do you not pick up and call her back after the game, making sure to text her as to why? You can do that too. However, when you do talk, after the elation/sorrow of a win or loss, you gonna get got, son.
She will unload about how you don’t pay her any mind, don’t pay any attention to her, and finally, how you’re not being romantic.
Well, if you’re gonna be like that, how can I be?
Note: This is a hypothetical situation. I don’t really know this girl. This is a stereotype.
Tweet9 things guys would never do if women didn’t exist
Since I posted a girly post previously.. this one goes to males! Lol enjoy!
9 Purchase/Own a Rug
No guy ever looks at the coffee table in his living room and thinks how much more beautiful the room will look if there was a rug underneath it. Rugs are almost as sure a sign of a female inhabitant as the pink fluffy toilet seat cover and scented candles in the bathroom. In fact, the only guy that ever actually found a use for a rug was Aladdin. And even so…he just ended up using the thing to impress a chick.
No guy ever looks at the coffee table in his living room and thinks how much more beautiful the room will look if there was a rug underneath it. Rugs are almost as sure a sign of a female inhabitant as the pink fluffy toilet seat cover and scented candles in the bathroom. In fact, the only guy that ever actually found a use for a rug was Aladdin. And even so…he just ended up using the thing to impress a chick.8 Own A Coton de Tulear
Guys don’t want to have to go out of their way to learn how to pronounce the breed of their dog. That’s why we prefer Bulldogs, Pitbulls, Pugs, and Mutts. It’s why we’ve shortened Labrador to just “Lab”. There’s no way to pronounce “Coton de Tulear” without growing boobs in the process. Go ahead. I dare you to try it. If you happen to own a dog that is small, white, fluffy, and wearing a pink or blue bow, and there wasn’t a woman involved, you’d better double check to make sure the Vet didn’t accidentally neuter you the last time you brought the dog in.
Guys don’t want to have to go out of their way to learn how to pronounce the breed of their dog. That’s why we prefer Bulldogs, Pitbulls, Pugs, and Mutts. It’s why we’ve shortened Labrador to just “Lab”. There’s no way to pronounce “Coton de Tulear” without growing boobs in the process. Go ahead. I dare you to try it. If you happen to own a dog that is small, white, fluffy, and wearing a pink or blue bow, and there wasn’t a woman involved, you’d better double check to make sure the Vet didn’t accidentally neuter you the last time you brought the dog in.7 See Any Movie That Stars Hugh Grant
Guys don’t like Hugh Grant. We don’t find him or his British babbling charming or humorous. In fact, the only time we’ve ever actually found him funny was when he got arrested for engaging in “lewd conduct” with that unattractive prostitute. If women didn’t exist, Hugh Grant wouldn’t have a career. Neither would Julia Roberts, Nicholas Sparks, or anyone working at Bravo.
Guys don’t like Hugh Grant. We don’t find him or his British babbling charming or humorous. In fact, the only time we’ve ever actually found him funny was when he got arrested for engaging in “lewd conduct” with that unattractive prostitute. If women didn’t exist, Hugh Grant wouldn’t have a career. Neither would Julia Roberts, Nicholas Sparks, or anyone working at Bravo.6 Apologize
Guys don’t need to hear “I’m sorry”. We could get into a bloody fist-fight with a friend one night, but the next day we’ll be right back to hanging out again without so much as a word. It’s one of the beautiful things about guy code. There doesn’t have to be a long, drawn out verbal proclamation. A simple handshake and perhaps a pat on the shoulder or the back does the trick. What happened is in the past. No harm, no foul. And the best part is…we won’t use the previous fight as ammo if there happens to be another fight in the future.
Guys don’t need to hear “I’m sorry”. We could get into a bloody fist-fight with a friend one night, but the next day we’ll be right back to hanging out again without so much as a word. It’s one of the beautiful things about guy code. There doesn’t have to be a long, drawn out verbal proclamation. A simple handshake and perhaps a pat on the shoulder or the back does the trick. What happened is in the past. No harm, no foul. And the best part is…we won’t use the previous fight as ammo if there happens to be another fight in the future.5 Talk on the Phone
Just like we don’t need to hear “I’m sorry”, we also don’t need to hear a bunch of babble about how someone else’s day went, what happened, and how they’re feeling about it. Text messaging has been the best thing to ever happen to us. We can say what we need to say in as few words as possible without any phony candy-coated BS. And if a few words won’t do the trick, well, that’s why we have email on our phones as well.
Just like we don’t need to hear “I’m sorry”, we also don’t need to hear a bunch of babble about how someone else’s day went, what happened, and how they’re feeling about it. Text messaging has been the best thing to ever happen to us. We can say what we need to say in as few words as possible without any phony candy-coated BS. And if a few words won’t do the trick, well, that’s why we have email on our phones as well.4 Go to brunch…on a Sunday…during Football season
We wait all week for Sunday to roll around. If it were up to us, we wouldn’t even put our pants on on Sundays. So, the only way a guy is going to go “out to brunch” on a Sunday is if he’s dating a woman who happens to be the one wearing those pants.
We wait all week for Sunday to roll around. If it were up to us, we wouldn’t even put our pants on on Sundays. So, the only way a guy is going to go “out to brunch” on a Sunday is if he’s dating a woman who happens to be the one wearing those pants.3 Go to Brunch. Period.
There’s breakfast. And there’s lunch. Men don’t do brunch. When was the last time you’ve heard a group of guys squeal in excitement over midday mimosas and some enticing gossip? If women didn’t exist, neither would the word “brunch”. Also, mimosas would consist of beer, orange juice, and protein powder and be renamed “Hasselhoffs” in honor of his favorite daily breakfast beverage.
There’s breakfast. And there’s lunch. Men don’t do brunch. When was the last time you’ve heard a group of guys squeal in excitement over midday mimosas and some enticing gossip? If women didn’t exist, neither would the word “brunch”. Also, mimosas would consist of beer, orange juice, and protein powder and be renamed “Hasselhoffs” in honor of his favorite daily breakfast beverage.2 Watch an Episode of How I Met Your Mother
No guy willingly stumbles upon a CBS sitcom. Either the remote’s batteries go dead right after a game or somehow the remote has ended up in his girl’s hands. These are two actions that CBS pretty much relies on. We’re all for Jason Segel’s antics on the big screen and we love it every time Neil Patrick Harris pops up in a Harold & Kumarmovie, but cramming them into a 30 minute sitcom with the annoying chick fromAmerican Pie is just not our cup of tea. Also, the term “cup of tea” wouldn’t exist. We don’t even like tea.
No guy willingly stumbles upon a CBS sitcom. Either the remote’s batteries go dead right after a game or somehow the remote has ended up in his girl’s hands. These are two actions that CBS pretty much relies on. We’re all for Jason Segel’s antics on the big screen and we love it every time Neil Patrick Harris pops up in a Harold & Kumarmovie, but cramming them into a 30 minute sitcom with the annoying chick fromAmerican Pie is just not our cup of tea. Also, the term “cup of tea” wouldn’t exist. We don’t even like tea.1 Leave A Bar Before 12am (In Kuwait’s case – Leave DOWANIYA Before 12am)
Nothing good happens at a bar before 12am. Everyone knows that. So, if a guy is leaving a bar at 11:35, he’s either being dragged out by his girlfriend to watch the past week’s episode of The Bachelor on Tivo before a serious cuddle session OR he managed to get lucky and is leaving early with a girl he just met. Without women, we’d stay at a bar until we puked or they kicked us out. Or until they kicked us out for puking. True, women are one of the reasons we go to bars, but after a few drinks and a couple rounds of arcade basketball and foosball, we tend to forget you’re even there anyway.
Nothing good happens at a bar before 12am. Everyone knows that. So, if a guy is leaving a bar at 11:35, he’s either being dragged out by his girlfriend to watch the past week’s episode of The Bachelor on Tivo before a serious cuddle session OR he managed to get lucky and is leaving early with a girl he just met. Without women, we’d stay at a bar until we puked or they kicked us out. Or until they kicked us out for puking. True, women are one of the reasons we go to bars, but after a few drinks and a couple rounds of arcade basketball and foosball, we tend to forget you’re even there anyway.via guyism.com
Is this true guys?!
FJ
TweetHow to Speak ‘WOMAN’
via manofthehouse.com
The missus said everything was fine. But that slammed door is telling you “fine” might actually mean something closer to “terrible.” Short of calling the United Nations for an interpreter, what’s a guy to do?
Research suggests that women use body language up to six times more than men. But it doesn’t take Sherlock to deduct that men are a little behind the curve in deciphering it. With a quick tutorial on “woman speak” plus a little body language knowledge, you could begin improve communication with your wife or girlfriend. Try these tips:
The Red Lights
Nothing’s really been resolved if you hear these words:
It’s fine. No. It’s not fine. It’s not fine at all. And usually when she says this, her body will not be facing you directly. Whether it’s her gaze, her shoulders, her hips or all of the above, she’s letting you know that the conversation isn’t over. And take note if she says this while taking out the garbage, painting the dining room, or changing a dirty diaper. She asked for some help with the task at hand, and you kind of didn’t step up.
Nothing. Perhaps you heard this word after you asked, “What’s wrong?” or “What is it?” Batten down the hatches; she’s not ready to talk yet. If her crossed arms at the chest, the conversation should be stopped immediately. A long arm cross, however — like one with her wrists crossed near her waist — could be a sign that she could be ready to talk it out.
Whatever. Oh man. Whatever you said or did, she didn’t like it. Are you sitting down at dinner? Maybe in a car? Look for her body to be moved as far back away from you as possible. Her torso could be shifted, her feet may be tucked under the chair, or she might be sighing really loud. Give her some space. She’s mulling it over.
What I want is… As a broad, general rule, women disguise direct wants and needs with words like “I would like” or “I’m thinking of doing.” So when you hear clear, cut, concise language — kind of like the way you would talk — she’s telling you how to fix the problem. If she ends her explanation with a question, she would like for the conversation to continue, ideally with your point of view.
The Green Lights
On the flip side, women have ways of verbally letting you know that things are going great. While these hints aren’t foolproof, they’re decent enough gauges to be aware of. Things to look for:
What are you thinking? She’s opening the door for connection, and she may have something to talk about. There are two roads to take here: If you say, “nothing,” be ready. Even if your head is honest-to-God be filled with nothing but flat lines, women won’t believe you. There’s never nothing going through their heads, so if they hear “nothing,” they may think you’re hiding something.
If you answer with whatever it is you’re really thinking about, look for a touch on your arm or hand. This move is helping her break down barriers with some quick and simple skin-on-skin contact.
Do I look fat? How does this look? No matter what you really think, you have got to understand that she looks fabulous at all times. At. All. Times. So unless you are looking for a fight or maybe need a drink chilled with a glare, answer, “You are beautiful.” She will smile and have the confidence she needed.
Well, I see what you’re saying, but … She disagrees with you. And while she wants you to hear her point of view, she doesn’t want to stir the pot. Look for a lot of hand gestures with this kind of non-committal language, perhaps with even more of a singsong-y voice pitch. Why? Throughout their lives, women are trained to disagree without combativeness that could be perceived as bitchy. She doesn’t want you to see her as aggressive, but she wants you to know she has a point of view.
Anything in a whisper. The lean and whisper is a move used by women everywhere — girlfriends, potential girlfriends, wives — usually with a high success rate. Talking quieter implies intimacy, a secret connection, and what she’s trying to say is that she’s feeling it.
Whether you’re simply trying to get to know her better or are working through tough issues, these tips could help you manage ill communication a tad better. But if you find yourself confused, simply listen. You’ll find yourself at the heart of the matter — and at hers.
Craig Heimbuch is the Editor-in-Chief of ManoftheHouse.com and the author of “Chasing Oliver Hazard Perry.” He is a Barefoot Proximity employee.
Love; state of mind or is it more?
Me, being a realist and refusing to be a hopeless romantic, is making me go through all type of trouble towards understanding the true meaning of “Love”. I couldn’t find a better way to start off this post other than going back to the basics and defining “Love”. According to thefreedictionary.com, the word “Love” has seventeen different definitions; 10 of which are nouns and 7 are verbs. The state of being in love on the other hand has only one definition; Deeply or passionately enamored.
I think we can all agree that having one definition for being in love only proves how significant the feeling is, and how the word itself does in fact deserve all the hype and attention it gets. The reasons for it are extremely hard to narrow down or even figure out; no one knows why he/she is deeply in love with someone who isn’t at all compatible. You hear about the term “Opposites attract” all the time and how having such differences completes you instead of pushing you away, but is it true?
I read studies that proved that love can actually be stimulated by different things, but how chemistry is the most important factor of it all. Having that intense chemistry is what makes two people love, want, and need one another. The tricky thing about chemistry is that you either have it or you just don’t; having it makes everything worth it in the end, and not having it makes you not fight for it in the beginning. So what can you do when you’re not sure about your own chemistry? You try! According to studies that have been conducted, there are things you can actually do to start a spark with someone. Apparently there are elements which can trigger that missing chemistry; Smell, love pheromones, and the brain itself. As weird as it may sound, it makes perfect sense; walking around with an attractive scent makes you desirable to people around you. As for both the brain and the pheromones, they are mainly controlled by hormones and uncontrolled signals coming from our olfactory system into the brain.
The more important question here is if love is in fact considered a state of mind? Or is it fate that brings people together? And is playing mind games is what you need to be doing to maintain your relationship?
I personally believe that love can be both a state of mind mixed with great chemistry and compatibility. What do you think?
TweetThe Respect Factor
For any relationship to be successful (be it marriage, love or friendship), respect between both parties must exist. A sure killer to a relationship is to not respect each other. When you love somebody, you make only good things to them. When you respect somebody, you acknowledge the right of the person to decide about what is actually good for them. Combining both feeling together you help your partner to fulfill his/her choice (in case it doesn’t contradict any of your own principles).
Someone who loves you should help you to feel good about yourself. When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You are not meant to be feeling intimidated or controlled. I see alot of guys don’t treat their wives good and the other way around; a lot of times women will accept this abuse or disrespect from their husbands or boyfriends and they keep staying in the relationship hoping they’d change.
Examples of disrespectful times/actions:
- Its all about you.
- You’re not giving respect/attention to your partner’s emotions and sensitivities. ( you need to SUPPORT EACH OTHER)
- Swearing/cussing instead of communicating.
- Commenting on how Jessica Alba is better looking than she is.
- Passive aggressiveness.
- Name calling.
- You’re stupid/ I dont care about you/ You’re worthless to me.
- Forgetting that its your birthday is NOT one of the reasons btw.
- Not taking your mates conversation seriously.
Respect plays a huge rule in setting the atmosphere for a relationship, and I’m not talking about the whole get on one knee and kiss their ring type of respect. I’m talking about acknowledging and respecting their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
If you’re the kind of person that doesn’t care about touchy feely stuff and respect and blah blah? then start getting yourself a good divorce lawyer. If you think that by replacing your partner you will solve this problem, then you’re probably wrong.
Disrespect brings drama drama drama, do you really want that in your lives?
Don’t let it too late to be fixed, respect to be respected!! 
Cheers!FJ.
If I weren’t mad about you, I’d just be mad.
is jealousy a sign of love or insecurity?
The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not inherited.
According to the American Heritage Dictionary, Jealousy is “fear or wariness of being supplanted, apprehension of losing affection or position, resentment or bitterness in rivalry, inclination to suspect rivalry, vigilance in guarding something, and intolerance of disloyalty or infidelity.”
Now for those of you who don’t speak dictionary, what this basically means is this:there are two types of jealousy. There is the kind of jealousy that would drive you crazy and away. And the other type which is simple jealousy, it brings you closer and gives a sense of motivation to regulate the distance.
“Simple Jealousy Regulates Distance; Complex Jealousy Expands Distance”
We all experience jealousy to one extent or another. It’s only human to feel possessive about the one you love or guard what you’ve worked so hard to attain, but when jealousy becomes the motivating factor for how we respond to situations, we need to step back and take a close look at ourselves.
Jealousy, like a lot of other human emotions, is rooted in fear. So if you’re letting that fear rule you to the point that you obsess and are paralyzed by it, what does it say about you? It says that you don’t believe you are lovable and worthy enough to hold the love and affection of someone, and that you don’t believe that you are unique enough to hold on to your accomplishments despite the competition and underhanded moves of whoever is trying to supplant you.
The above was one scenario, the other one is that when someone just becomes a total ******* and completely gives you all the reasons in the world to be jealous and insecurity. In this case, just drive him/her crazy and torture them to death!!!! (I may be joking on that last part.)
When the partners drift apart, the pain of jealousy motivates more attention and connecting behavior. It can occur frequently when the relationship is most insecure, particularly in the early stages of emotional bonding, when the parties feel the most vulnerable to rejection. It goes largely unnoticed at that time, because they follow the natural motivation to be more loving. They reconnect, and the jealousy immediately recedes.
Jealousy as it relates to the male/female relationship is not a sign of insecurity if it was simple and reasonable, its rather healthy.
Every Annoyance in a relationship is really a two-way street.
but wait, if you were RIGHT about your feelings? THE HELL TO THE NO. you pick yourself up and you leave the dirt behind. You treat yourself with respect and confidently move on to bigger and better things. If anything, they are not allowed to use you as a doormat.
cheers!